Violet Blue, one of the many SF sex goddesses

I love Violet Blue. She's just so on point. Today, her column (Sleepless in San Francisco) in the SF Chronicle was all about flirting and meeting people in the city. I will use it for inspiration for my continued adventuring. Thanks, Lady Violet.

uncertain

i met a person at my 10-year reunion. we have a unique and strong connection, but we live 3,000 miles from one another. i am unclear about my desire to pursue or just leave it be. i think the desire we share is relatively balanced, though i fear that it is becoming less balanced (with my interest waning) as distance and distractions intervene.

convergence

I was talking to a friend last night - a conversation all about convergence or mutuality or reaching for each other. It made me wonder if the idea, this feeling I have, that someday I will find a person who I want as much as they want me. Who wants me as much as I want them.

"Love is a friendship set to music." ~ E. Joseph Cossman

on adventure (7)

"Without passion man is a mere latent force and possibility, like the flint which awaits the shock of the iron before it can give forth its spark."
— Henri Frederic Amiel

negative ghostrider, the pattern is full

Just received a rejection from a boy on my invitation. Ah well. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. I do feel that my overtures are usually rebuffed, though. Is that becuase I don't do it right?

What is the right way to ask a person out? If I'm going to get to 24 dates (with more than one person) I am going to have to figure it out. Because there is no guarantee that people I am interested in are necessarily going to ask me.

The other boy just called me, and wanted some company - I'm still interested, but just feel like I don't want that distraction right now. Not that I am uninterested - just that I keep hoping for that spark of something more.

The spark that has me reaching - not just being reached for. The spark that makes me want to drop everything, at least for a little while. The spark that has me hanging on their words, listening for their voice for endless hours without excess judgment.

This is why the 24 dates are so necessary, I think.