Violet Blue, one of the many SF sex goddesses

I love Violet Blue. She's just so on point. Today, her column (Sleepless in San Francisco) in the SF Chronicle was all about flirting and meeting people in the city. I will use it for inspiration for my continued adventuring. Thanks, Lady Violet.

uncertain

i met a person at my 10-year reunion. we have a unique and strong connection, but we live 3,000 miles from one another. i am unclear about my desire to pursue or just leave it be. i think the desire we share is relatively balanced, though i fear that it is becoming less balanced (with my interest waning) as distance and distractions intervene.

january wrap up

• went on a couple more dates
  
• celebrated my grandfather's 75th birthday, which was soooo much fun
  
• took steps re the dog
  
• worked on a painting, more involved than my usual
  

Beginning of the Month

• tattoo - DONE! - firelotus
  
• 24 dates - 2
  
• cook excellent food (made jambalaya and gumbo this month)

negative ghostrider, the pattern is full

Just received a rejection from a boy on my invitation. Ah well. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. I do feel that my overtures are usually rebuffed, though. Is that becuase I don't do it right?

What is the right way to ask a person out? If I'm going to get to 24 dates (with more than one person) I am going to have to figure it out. Because there is no guarantee that people I am interested in are necessarily going to ask me.

The other boy just called me, and wanted some company - I'm still interested, but just feel like I don't want that distraction right now. Not that I am uninterested - just that I keep hoping for that spark of something more.

The spark that has me reaching - not just being reached for. The spark that makes me want to drop everything, at least for a little while. The spark that has me hanging on their words, listening for their voice for endless hours without excess judgment.

This is why the 24 dates are so necessary, I think.

the boy who works

Tonight i sort-of asked him out via e-mail. I've thought about asking him out before, but the opportunity never presented itself.

I'd be into getting to know him better.

Also, my sister and her boyfriend broke up today. This makes me feel sad, but also sort-of glad for her because she is getting to move on to the next important thing in her life, and to make some space for herself. Love to you, darlin'.

Exams and Boys and Escape

Why do things always seem to flood down after a long drought? I mean, no dating worth mentioning for more months than I care to remember. And now several possibilities?

There also seems to be something about holidays and exam time that makes everything happen all at once.

In a way, this makes me so glad to be leaving for a few weeks. To have a change of scenery, see far-away friends, and to separate from the bizarre-o world that i sometimes feel i occupy. There's actually a boy I wouldn't mind dating while i'm on my little trip. Too bad he's a friend/coworker of my father's.....

And then there's always W. who continues to send notes about my "sassy" hair. is this flirting or just flirting? Hmm.

DC

all i have to say about this is "yes."

i was a single woman in washington

dating

ok. i have to go on some dates. i am tired of not having people to go out with. i think i am seriously going to ask people to start setting me up on dates. i think there also need to be more parties involving single, available, normal people. and i need to make an effort to go to the things that i know about.

i think i am at the end of my saturn return - and that i took myself out of circulation for awhile. i just needed to realign and get my bearings, but dang. i am ready to meet some new people. ready for what comes next.

more about saturn returns:

• http://newage-directory.com/saturn.html
  

Quitting Match.com

Last year, I tried Match.com. Yesterday, I quit. It's all just too weird. I got the most bizarre people responding to my ads. One who told me he, "voted for Bush because I knew he'd have the balls to push the button." Another who was a total racist. Another who was a parolee. And so on. None were married, as far as I know, but... it took way too much time with too little reward.

So, after being unsuccessful there, I'm quitting. I actually though I had quit a month ago, but realized that somehow I'd been automatically renewed. Now, my friends are egging me on to be a speed-dating guinea pig. I'm undecided about the quality of this idea, but probably will jump in. A few adventures are a good thing.

How do people meet people? This is my question. Somehow I don't meet them, unless they are 40 year old guys who want me to be their mothers. Time to pull out the dominatrix tricks. Less compassion, more edge.

16 again?

This feels like the replay of my life at age 16 - boys falling in love with my best friend. She was perky and flirty and the boys nearly tripped over each other to date her.

30 needs to be the year of stepping out of the sidekick role. I am so over it.